The Book of Good Manners | Page 3

and bearing the name of the guest, and the outer one sealed, with, the street address.
INVITATIONS, ANSWERING. It is not necessary to accept or decline these invitations, as the guest accepts by his presence. If unable to do so, he should send by mail or messenger a visiting-card, to reach the hostess during the ceremony.
When the invitation has been issued in the name of the hostess only, a husband and wife each send a card, and if in the name of hostess and her daughter, each should send two cards. If the invitation has been issued in the name of the husband and wife, the wife should send one and a husband two cards.
If the woman in the family is the only one present at the function, she can leave cards for the rest of the family.
MEN. Both the host and men wear the regulation afternoon dress, consisting of the long frock coat with single or double-breasted waistcoat to match, or of some fancy cloth, and gray trousers. White linen, a light tie, a silk hat, gray gloves, and patent leather shoes complete the costume.
The overcoat, hat, and cane are left in the dressing-room, and the guest removes one or both gloves as he pleases--remembering that he must offer his ungloved right hand to the hostess.
SHAKING HANDS. Guests on being presented to the hostess should shake hands. If guest takes leave of hostess, they should shake hands. If the hostess is surrounded by guests, a pleasant nod of farewell is admissible.
WOMEN. Women leave cards of their male relatives as well as their own, even though their names may be announced upon entering. Guests leave their cards in a receptacle provided for the purpose, or give them to the servant at the door.
Women wear a costume appropriate for the afternoon, and keep their hats and gloves on.

AFTERNOON TEAS (INFORMAL). An afternoon tea is a simple entertainment. Refreshments are generally served to the guests. An innovation lately introduced has become quite popular --namely, young women, invited for the purpose, wait upon the guests, bringing in one dainty at a time.
An afternoon tea is called a formal afternoon tea when engraved cards have been issued, naming set date.
CARDS. Guests should leave cards in the hall, or hand them to the servant. Women may leave the cards of the men of her family. Those unable to attend should send card the same afternoon by mail or messenger.
See also AFTERNOON TEAS (Formal)-Cards.
DRESS. Both men and women wear afternoon dress.
GUESTS. All guests, both men and women, wear afternoon dress.
Guests may suit their convenience in arriving or departing--provided they do not come at the opening hour, nor stay to the last moment.
After the guests have left their wraps in the dressing-rooms, they leave their cards in the tray in the hall and enter the drawing- room, the women preceding the men.
After greeting the hostess and being introduced to those assisting her, the guests quietly move away and mingle with the rest.
Each guest goes to the dining-room when he pleases and leaves when he wishes. It is not necessary upon departure to shake hands with the hostess at a large reception, though it is better to do so at a small affair.
It is not necessary for a guest to stay the entire evening; twenty minutes is sufficient.
HOST. If present, he does not receive with his wife. It is not essential that he be present on such an occasion.
HOSTESS. The hostess wears full dress. Daughters may assist, or young women may be asked to do so.
HOURS. From four to seven.
INVITATIONS. For an afternoon tea a visiting- card may be used with the hour and date written or engraved on it. They may be sent by mail or messenger.
The invitation need not be acknowledged.

AFTERNOON WEDDING RECEPTIONS are conducted the same as Wedding Receptions, which see.

AGRICULTURE, SECRETARY OF--HOW ADDRESSED. An official letter begins: Sir, and ends: I have sir, the honor to remain your most obedient servant.
A social letter begins: My dear Mr. Wilson, and ends: I have the honor to remain most sincerely yours.
The address on the envelope is: Hon. John J. Wilson, Secretary of Agriculture.

AISLE PROCESSION. See WEDDING PROCESSION.

ANGLICAN CHURCH ARCHBISHOP. See ARCHBISHOP.

ANGLICAN CHURCH BISHOP. See BISHOP.

ANNIVERSARIES--WEDDING. These are as follows:
First year...................Paper
Fifth year.................Wooden
Tenth year ..................Tin
Twelfth year.............Leather
Fifteenth year ..........Crystal
Twentieth year.............China
Twenty-fifth year.........Silver
Thirtieth year ............Ivory
Fortieth year.............Woolen
Forty-fifth year............Silk
Fiftieth year............ Golden
Seventy-fifth year...... Diamond
Less attention is now paid than formerly to all those before the silver wedding. For specific information, see SILVER WEDDING, TIN WEDDING, etc.

ANNOUNCEMENT--ENGAGEMENT. See ENGAGEMENT PUBLIC ANNOUNCEMENT.

ANNOUNCING GUESTS--BALLS. The hostess decides whether or not the guests are to be announced. At public balls it is customary.

ANSWERING INVITATIONS. See under FUNCTIONS, as DINNERS, INVITATIONS, etc.

APPLES should be pared, cut into small pieces, and eaten with finders or forks.

ARCHBISHOP OF ANGLICAN CHURCH--HOW ADDRESSED. An official letter begins: My Lord Archbishop, may it please your