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be with.
When you know what to Open with AND follow through with, you can
be an unstoppable machine at meeting women.
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The Art of Approaching
PART II: Types of Openers
Now that you know some of the basic theories, tactics, and strategies
behind the Art of Approaching, now it’s time to introduce you to the
specifics. As listed earlier, there are ten different types of Openers that will
be discussed in this book. The Openers are listed in alphabetical order,
along with brief explanations of the Opener, the Structure of each Opener
so you can eventually learn to construct your own personal ones, and
specific examples of Openers that not only illustrate what we are
discussing, but that you can also use in you interactions with women.
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Advice Openers
One of the best ways to get people interested in you is to present yourself
as some type of authority figure. If you can speak confidently enough
about something, while also giving people some much appreciated
guidance, you can engage anybody in a conversation.
The best way to present yourself as an authority in someone else’s world is
to give people advice. The Advice Opener is a way to engage someone by
doing this, so you not only present yourself as an authority figure, but you
also hook them into a conversation.
By nature, the Advice Opener falls under the category of “unsolicited
advice.” Often times, this type of advice can come off as annoying, since
people neither asked nor wanted any advice from you in the first place. So
to counteract this, you have to give VALUABLE advice to someone in
order to get them engaged.
So how do you make your advice valuable? Well, firstly, you want to
make it PRACTICAL. Urging someone to walk out into the middle of a
freeway is quite impractical advice, because you’re advising them to put
themselves in a bad situation. When we say practical advice, we are
talking about advice that can give it’s recipient a logical benefit, and is
something they are actually physically capable of following.
The second way to make your advice valuable is to make it positive and
supporting of your target’s choice. This is important, because when you
support your target’s choice, you are not only telling them what they want
to hear (and therefore will be accepted more readily), but you are also
suggesting a commonality between you and your target. And when you
make the advice positive, you are presenting an attractive option that
you’re target may follow. And if they accept your advice, you have
established yourself as an authority.
On a quick note, Advice Openers are also somewhat context dependant. If
it doesn’t look like your target is in a situation where she needs advice, it
might be preferable to Open with another type of Opener.
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So with this in mind, let’s get to the structure of a solid Advice Opener.
Structure
After spotting your target, observe her situation and find something to
comment on. Then, approach your target by offering your advice, and end
by engaging them in some fashion.
IntruderÖOffer AdviceÖEngage Target
As I mentioned before, this type of Opener is rather context dependant.
You can usually find a way to give someone good advice by analyzing the
context you are in and the possibilities that your target may explore. Think
of it like a chess game: What are the possible moves your target is going to
make? Help them pick the best move and share with them why they
should make it.
Examples
--The “Gas” Opener
I’ve used this one at gas stations with some success. Occasionally,
while you’re fueling up your car, you’ll see a rather attractive
woman doing so nearby. If this is the situation, I’ll see how much
she’s spending on gas. If it looks like she’s filling up her tank,\
I’ll
usually call out: “Hey, you know, you should never let your gas
gauge fall below ¼ of a tank. All sorts of dirt and grime accumulate
at the bottom of your gas tank, and if you go past the ¼ mark, you
are putting all that dirt and grime into your engine. It’ll save you lots
of money in the long run on car repairs. Do you know a lot about
cars?”
This is actually good advice when it comes to vehicle maintenance
and most women don’t know this little trick. If you notice, I take a
read on the situation, offer this advice, and then engage the girl by
asking her about her knowledge of cars. Most of the time, women
won’t know a lot about the