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SMILE!
Smiling is the single most important piece of body language there is to
convey an engaging, friendly attitude. It is tremendously important. If you
look at people throughout the day, in a bar, club, bus, work, what have
you, most guys are not smiling. Simply by doing that, you’ll make
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yourself easier to talk to and more engaging (not to mention more
attractive!).
Good body language, coupled with good tonality, will make you seem
more confident, outgoing, engaging, and fun than anyone else around you.
And this will naturally attract people to you and make opening them
easier.
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Group Approaches
There’s a secret many people might not know about approaching. It’s a
secret so few people know about, because so few people do it. But once
you know this secret, your ability to meet any woman, any time, anywhere
you may want will literally skyrocket!
This was a secret that was hidden from me for many, many years. And it
was not until someone shared it with me that I was able to have the kind of
successful interactions with women that I’ve always dreamed of. So you
wanna know what it is? It’s pretty simple. In fact, it’s so simple that you
may in fact KICK yourself for not knowing it already. So you ready for it?
Okay, hold on, because here it comes:
Approaching groups of people is easier than approaching people who are
by themselves.
Is your mind blown yet? I know mine was when I was first told this. It
seems unnatural – you would THINK that a group would be harder to
approach then someone who’s by themselves. However, this is not the
case. The reason for this is that old maxim – There’s safety in numbers.
When people are by themselves, their guards are up. They feel more
vulnerable, and so are more resistant to people outside their established
social circles. But when they are already IN those social circles, they feel
safe, and their guard actually goes down, making them MORE open to
meeting people outside their already established friends. So if you know
how to approach groups of people, your success with interacting with
women will increase exponentially.
Group approaches are especially important to know in Bars, Clubs, and
Parties. In these venues, people tend to go out with their friends looking to
have a good time. You will very rarely find a girl in these places who is by
herself. So if you hope to be successful in these social venues, you MUST
know how to approach groups of people (and when I say groups of
PEOPLE, that’s what I mean. These groups can be either all women, or
women and men).
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This is where Group Theory comes into play. I learned Group Theory
from my friend and teacher Erik von Markovik, an Illusionist who goes by
his stage name “Mystery.” Mystery developed a very effective means of
approaching groups of people in any venue, which he has dubbed Group
Theory. I’ll go over some basics I’ve perfected here, but if you really want
to get detailed information on how to do this, I suggest you take a seminar
with Mystery so you can learn these tactics from one of the best there is.
You can find out all about Mystery and his method of approaching
women at www.mysterymethod.com.
The basics of Group Approaching are very simple. There are two
categories of people in every group:
• Your target
• Your obstacles

Your target is, of course, the person you wish to get alone eventually so
you can begin forming a relationship with them. Your obstacles are
anyone in the group who could keep you from doing that.
The first thing to keep in mind once you have determined who your target
is and who your obstacles are is this: You never approach your target first.
Remember earlier how we talked about the danger of telegraphing
interest? Well, in group situations, it is even more counterproductive to
telegraph interest, because not only will your target put up resistance, but
her friends will aid her in that resistance. So you want to throw off this
resistance by Opening one of your obstacles.
So if you have a group of two people, this is the easiest. You simply open
the person who is not your target. But when you get groups of three or
more people, things get a little more complicated. Which obstacle do you
open?
The truth is, you can open any obstacle you want. But the most effective
way to open the group is to approach the “leader” of