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IS SHE REALLY INTERESTED?
Before you get to foreplay, you've got to know if you're even
on the playing field with your subject of interest. Do you make the
move, or drop back 8 yards and punt? Here are some tips to help you
decipher her signals.
Eye contact. It's generally a good sign if a woman actually
looks at you when she speaks-much better than if she stares
unblinkingly at her fingernails or her shoes and mumbles. Two people
conversing look at each other about 60 percent of the time, according
to Michael Argyle in his book Bodily Communication. So if you catch
her looking at you more than that 60 percent of the time, chances are
she's more interested in you than in what you're saying.
Smiling. A broad smile is a sign of real enjoyment. But be on
the lookout for a smile that shows only the upper teeth. It's a polite
smile-or one that shows a woman is uncomfortable.
Movement. A woman who shifts her body around as she
speaks to you may be sending a message. "Movement attracts
attention," says Colleen, a 35-yearold legislative assistant. "If I'm
adjusting my posture, it means I'm attracted." She might, she says,
"even roll [her] hips a little" if she's talking to you.
Leaning toward you. Leaning in, tilting her head to one side,
speaking in a softer voice-these all may indicate interest.
Giggling. Laughing in a charming, feminine way is a positive.
On the other hand, if she lets out a guffaw, it probably means she just
wants to be considered one of the guys.
Flushed face. That's a good sign, because your bloodflow
increases when you're attracted to someone. "Her pupils may dilate,
too," says Judee Burgoon, Ph.D., professor of communication at the
University of Arizona in Tucson. But, she cautions, pupils also dilate
when you're hungry, so make sure she's thinking beefcake, not
hamburger.
Touching you. Julius Fast, author of Body Language, says

women sometimes touch men during conversation. Laying a hand on a
shoulder or forearm, or playing with a tie-both are flirtatious signs of
interest.
Touching herself. If she's flipping her hair, fixing her clothes,
playing with jewelry-those are all positive signs. "She may affect a
gesture in which one hand touches her breast in a near caress. She may
stroke her thighs as she talks," says Fast. That's the basic lexicon of
body talk.
You Are What You Eat (or Drink …)
A healthy diet goes hand in hand with regular exercise to help
ensure that when you're ready, you'll get optimum performance from
all your parts. Avoid big-time fat and cholesterol (as in egg yolks).
Anything that will, over time, clog up the plumbing of life will clog up
the plumbing of love. If circulation is hampered by fat deposits in your
blood vessels, your penis won't get as much blood, either, and you
could have erection or sensation problems. Following are a few more
performance basics to keep in mind.
Go ahead and enjoy your coffee. Over the years a vast array
of studies have explored the connection between caffeine, sex, and
reproduction. Researchers have looked into whether caffeine causes
birth defects or increases the risk of breast cancer. And for the most
part, your steaming cup of java has been cleared of reproductive
wrongdoing, as long as you drink only a cup or two.
But what about sexual performance? Another group of studies
has shown that caffeine can deliver a performance-boosting jolt to
sperm cells, increasing both their velocity (speed) and motility (live-
liness). But don't imagine that Folger's Mountain Grown will become
the next fertility drug-in these studies, massive amounts of caffeine
were applied directly to semen samples wriggling in Petri dishes.
Practically speaking, the only value of this finding is to suggest a way
of improving the chances of in vitro fertilization.
Go easy on the booze. Alcohol has its sexual ups and downs,
most of them downs. For one, it's the greatest performance-squelcher
of all. After two, maybe three glasses of wine, your skill curve begins
to plummet like a mud hen hit by a Sidewinder. A general rule of
thumb is that the a-mount of alcohol it takes to affect your driving (for
an average-size man, anything more than two drinks in an hour) will
also affect your libido. On the other hand, one glass of champagne by
candlelight, with some moody piano concerto in the background, could
mist her eyes with passion, and she may end up racing you to the
bedroom. The tiny bubbles can work magic, but remember, you don't
want to be anesthetized for sex.

Lighten up on heavy meals. Big pre-thang meals can affect
you in much the same way that alcohol does. For one thing, they make
you sleepy. But you could run into worse trouble. The North African
classic The Perfumed Garden warns that "coitus after a full meal may
occasion rupture of the intestines." Don't know about you, but we hate
when that happens. Although there appears to be no scientific basis for
this warning, we tend to follow this advice.
Trust us, you don't want the seven-course feast or the prime rib
with potatoes and gravy before the planned night of passion.