off
first. Slow and deliberate. Don’t act like you’ve been in prison for
the last five years and this is your first time with a woman.
8. Once the pants are off, keep kissing, smelling, tasting, gentle slow
touching... and add touching around the edges of her underwear.
Women like to have the skin around the edges of clothing and
underclothing touched (usually). Slowly and deliberately.
9. Finally, reach down and touch her gently between her legs. She
might resist this (or any of the previous advances). If she does, just
stop and go back to building anticipation. If you do this a few more
times, she’ll usually get turned on to the point where she wants you
to continue.
10. For the sake of all the dumb-ass men in the world, I have to say
“If she says “STOP” or pushes you away, then stop. Never force a
woman to do anything. It’s dumb, wrong, and illegal.”
So that’s it for the ‘transition.’ Now you’re ready for the real deal.
Oral Sex
For a woman, her whole body can get turned on. So don’t forget to
keep touching her and paying attention to the rest of her body.
I recommend trying a few things when you first have oral sex with her
to find what she likes.
Here’s the list:
1. Begin by KISSING your way down her stomach... and then her
inner thighs and legs... anticipation.
2. Ask “are you comfortable.” Women usually like to feel clean and
‘fresh’... and she might feel self-conscious because she hasn’t
showered in several hours, etc. If this is the case, you might want
to ask her if she’d like to share a shower with you. If she seems
uncomfortable, ask if she’d like to join you in a shower.
3. Begin by kissing her gently. Kiss her and lick her slowly and
deliberately. Make some “Mmmmm” noises and let her know that
you’re enjoying yourself.
4. You have a couple of major tools, and a couple of ways to use
them. Use your tongue on her clit, and your fingers on the inside.
5. Start with kissing and licking, then a few minutes later insert one
finger. If she likes this, ask if she’d like two fingers. Go slow, as
most women need to relax and get used to the stretching. If you
don’t know where a clit and a G spot are, get a book.
6. Mouth options: Licking up and down, side to side, in circles, directly
on her clit, around it, sucking.
7. Finger(s) inside options: Sliding in and out, staying still, rubbing top
or bottom or sides, rubbing a spot inside, slow, fast.
8. Try each of the mouth options until you find the one she likes best.
9. Try each of the finger options until you find the one she likes best.
10. Combine. Once you find the magic combination, keep doing it
EXACTLY that way, at EXACTLY that speed and pressure. Men like
faster and harder, women usually like the same way until orgasm.
If you do a great job, she’ll usually want to reciprocate and use her
mouth to make you feel great.
Do yourself a favor: Tell her what you like and how you like it. But
don’t make it sound like you’ve done this a thousand times and you’re an
expert at describing it.
Say “Ohhh... I liked it when you did this...” and “It really feels good
when you...” Women like to know that you’re feeling good. So tell her as
she’s doing it. Tell her how you’re feeling.
Sex
I think it’s a good idea to always be paying attention to how she’s
responding to your touching, kissing, etc.
Different women like things differently, and sex is where this makes
itself more obvious.
So.... if she liked it when you really sucked on her neck hard... and
she was pulling on you with force, then there’s a good chance that she’s
going to like to be more ‘physical’ when it comes to sex.
So pay attention.
At first, you’ll want to go very slowly. Only insert the very tip of your
throbbing manhood, cowboy. Then pull it out. Then the tip. Then pull it out.
Anticipation. Anticipation. Anticipation.
Repeat “I can wait” 1,000 times.
It definitely helps if you’ve made her have a great orgasm moments
before... as she’ll be wetter.
In any event, notice what makes her feel good, and do more of it
during sex.
Here’s a list (did you notice that I like lists?) of other ideas for you:
1. Try variations, like 9 fast shallow thrusts then one slow deep one.
This will make her gasp every time you go deep.
2. Look into her eyes while you’re having sex.
3. Caress her body, kiss her and touch her, and remember the rest of
her.
4. This is when it’s OK to switch into “I haven’t had sex in 47 years
and I’m going to take it out on you” mode. At this point it’s OK to
be a wild man.
5. Find combinations of things that she likes. She might like to be
kissed at the same time... or have her nipples pinched. Try things.
Keep what works.
6. If you need to stop because you’re going to blow
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