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for a girl that she is
getting sexually excited is when her
vagina begins to moisten. Her vagina
will also become longer and wider inside
her body. Her clitoris – a sensitive spot
at the top of where the vagina opens –
will get bigger too.
The main sign for a boy that he is
getting sexually excited is when he gets
an erection. This means that his penis
fills up with blood and quickly grows
longer, harder and curves upward.
For both girls and boys being turned on
means that extra blood comes to the
surface of the skin, particularly around
the vagina and penis. You might feel
pleasantly and particularly sensitive
around your sex organs. But you can
feel warm and sexy just about anywhere
on your body. Your heart will beat faster
and your breathing gets quicker too.
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You might become sexually excited by
touching your own body. Many people
enjoy touching or rubbing their genitals
to give themselves sexual pleasure. This
is called masturbation. For many people
masturbation is their first sexual
experience and the first way they express
their sexual feelings physically.
Masturbation is a good way of learning
about your body and the things that
you like sexually.
We played truth or dare and
Jo got asked if she ever
masturbates . She was so
embarrassed, she went bright
red but she said she did .
This doesn’t mean that everyone does
it, feels comfortable about it or that
they think it is right. Some people have
religious or moral beliefs which mean
they feel that masturbation is wrong.
HOW DO PEOPLE
MASTURBATE?
A girl usually masturbates by rubbing,
stroking or squeezing on or around her
clitoris. The clitoris is the most sensitive
sexual part of a girl. A girl might touch
her breasts too. A boy usually masturbates
by stroking or rubbing his penis.
Especially round the tip which is the
most sensitive part.
People don’t necessarily begin masturbating
when they reach puberty. Some people
hardly ever masturbate, and others
masturbate a lot. It varies according to how
a person feels. Some people masturbate when
they are in a relationship with someone.
Masturbation can last as long as you want,
but generally people masturbate for
between a few minutes and half an hour.
There is no physical reason why you should
or shouldn’t masturbate. It is not true
that you’ll go blind if you masturbate. It
is not possible to masturbate too much,
but you should stop if you start to make
yourself feel sore. Some people think that
if a boy doesn’t masturbate his testes fill
up with sperm. This is not true, the sperm
are just absorbed into his body. It is
also not true that girls who think about
sex or masturbate are ‘easy’.
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Orgasm
When sexual excitement builds up and
reaches a peak a person might experience
an orgasm, also called a climax or coming.
The sexual excitement might be through
masturbating on their own or kissing,
masturbating or having sex with another
person.
Sexual excitement usually grows gradually
and a person feels more and more pleasure
and a kind of exciting tension. All the
feelings of tension then disappear when
the orgasm happens, and the person
experiences feelings of intense pleasure.
The feeling can be so strong that a
person might not be able to see, or hear
or think about anything for a moment.
They might even groan and call out
with pleasure. Orgasms usually last only
a few seconds but the feelings might
last a lot longer.When a boy has an orgasm he ejaculates.
This means that sperm mixed with semen
comes out of the end of his penis in a
sticky white fluid. After a boy has
ejaculated he loses his erection and
usually needs to stop for a while. When
a girl has an orgasm her vagina often
becomes very wet, but she can continue
being sexually aroused as long as she
likes. Some girls can experience more
than one orgasm without stopping.
If a person doesn’t have an orgasm, it
doesn’t mean anything is wrong. In fact,
worrying about reaching an orgasm or
being nervous is quite likely to make it
hard for a person to relax enough to
have one.
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DOING SEXUAL THINGS
TOGETHER
The first sexual things that people do
together are often kissing, cuddling and
holding hands. But there is no order you
have to do things in, or times when you
have to do them. People generally say
that they don’t want to do very intimate
things straight away.
When people kiss they sometimes ‘french’
or ‘deep’ kiss. This is when both people
open their mouths when they kiss and
touch their tongues together. Sometimes
people touch each other through their
clothes, or put their hands inside to
stroke and touch each other’s bodies.
Sometimes they masturbate each other,
which is usually called mutual masturbation.
Same sex feelings
It can be that when you first feel
sexually attracted to someone, they are
the same sex as you. These feelings may
be permanent, or they may change.
I thought, well, this is just the phase
bit. Sooner or later I’m going to start
finding women attractive. I never did.
It can be hard to accept these feelings.
This is not because they are wrong but
because people can be prejudiced
towards gay and bisexual people. Gay
people are people who are attracted to
the same sex as themselves, bisexual
people are attracted to people of the
opposite and the same sex.
If you have sexual feelings towards
people of the