Nerves and Common Sense | Page 6

to drop the habit of
physical strain if she wanted to get well; but she also learned what was
more--far more--important than that: that _she must conquer the cause
of the strain or she could never permanently drop it._ She saw that the
cause was resentment and resistance to the noises--the circumstances,
the people, and all the variety of things that had "made her nervous."
Then she began her steady journey toward strong nerves and a
wholesome, happy life. She began the process of changing her brain
impressions. If she heard noises that annoyed her she would use her
will to direct her attention toward dropping resistance to the noises, and
in order to drop her mental resistance she gave her attention to
loosening out the bodily contractions. Finally she became interested in
the new process as in a series of deep and true experiments. Of course

her living and intelligent interest enabled her to gain very much faster,
for she not only enjoyed her growing freedom, but she also enjoyed
seeing her experiments work. Nature always tends toward health, and if
we stop interfering with her she will get us well.
There is just this difference between the healing of a physical sore and
the healing of strained and irritated nerves With the one our bodies are
healed, and things go on in them about the same as before. With the
other, every use of the will to free ourselves from the irritation and its
cause not only enables us to get free from the nervous illness, but in
addition brings us new nerve vigor.
When nervous illness is met deeply enough and in the normal way, the
result is that the nerves become stronger than ever before.
Often the effect of nervous strain in women is constant talking.
Talk--talk--talk, and mostly about themselves, their ailments, their
worries, and the hindrances that are put in their way to prevent their
getting well. This talking is not a relief, as people sometimes feel. It is
a direct waste of vigor. But the waste would be greater if the talk were
repressed. The only real help comes when the talker herself recognizes
the strain of her talk and "loosens" into silence.
People must find themselves out to get well--really well--from nervous
suffering. The cause of nervous strain is so often in the character and in
the way we meet circumstances and people that it seems essential to
recognize our mistakes in that direction, and to face them squarely
before we can do our part toward removing the causes of any nervous
illness.
Remember it is not circumstances that keep us ill. It is not people that
cause our illness. It is not our environment that overcomes us. It is the
way we face and deal with circumstances, with people, and with
environment that keeps our nerves irritated or keeps them quiet and
wholesome and steady.
Let me tell the story of two men, both of whom were brought low by
severe nervous breakdown. One complained of his environment,
complained of circumstances, complained of people. Everything and
every one was the cause of his suffering, except himself. The result was
that he weakened his brain by the constant willful and enforced strain,
so that what little health he regained was the result of Nature's steady
and powerful tendency toward health, and in spite of the man himself.

The other man--to give a practical instance--returned from a journey
taken in order to regain the strength which he had lost from not
knowing how to work. His business agent met him at the railroad
station with a piece of very bad news. Instead of being frightened and
resisting and contracting in every nerve of his body, he took it at once
as an opportunity to drop resistance. He had learned to relax his body,
and by doing relaxing and quieting exercises over and over he had
given himself a brain impression of quiet and "let go" which he could
recall at will. Instead of expressing distress at the bad news he used his
will at once to drop resistance and relax; and, to the surprise of his
informant, who had felt that he must break his bad news as easily as
possible, he said "Anything else?" Yes, there was another piece of news
about as bad as the first. "Go on," answered the man who had been sick
with nerves; "tell me something else."
And so he did, until he had told him five different things which were
about as disagreeable and painful to hear as could have been. For every
bit of news our friend used his will with decision to drop the resistance,
which would, of course, at once arise in response to all that seemed to
go against him.
He had, of course,