Narcissism Book of Quotes

Narcissism Book of Quotes

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Title: Narcissism Book of Quotes
Author: Sam Vaknin
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Narcissism
Book of Quotes
A SELECTION OF QUOTES FROM
THE COLLECTIVE WISDOM
OF OVER 12,000 INDIVIDUAL DISCUSSIONS
"I was married to a Narcissist for 16 years.
It's the closest thing there is to
HELL ON EARTH."
ISBN 9989-929-22-x
SUITE 101
NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER TOPIC DISCUSSIONS http://www.suite101.com/welcome.cfm/npd
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
An all-pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behaviour), need for admiration or adulation and lack of empathy, usually beginning by early adulthood and present in various contexts. Five (or more) of the following criteria must be met:
* Feels grandiose and self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents to the point of lying, demands to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements);
* Is obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power or omnipotence, unequalled brilliance (the cerebral narcissist), bodily beauty or sexual performance (the somatic narcissist), or ideal, everlasting, all-conquering love or passion;
* Firmly convinced that he or she is unique and, being special, can only be understood by, should only be treated by, or associate with, other special or unique, or high-status people (or institutions);
* Requires excessive admiration, adulation, attention and affirmation - or, failing that, wishes to be feared and to be notorious (narcissistic supply);
* Feels entitled. Expects unreasonable or special and favourable priority treatment. Demands automatic and full compliance with his or her expectations;
* Is "interpersonally exploitative", i.e., uses others to achieve his or her own ends;
* Devoid of empathy. Is unable or unwilling to identify with or acknowledge the feelings and needs of others;
* Constantly envious of others or believes that they feel the same about him or her;
* Arrogant, haughty behaviours or attitudes coupled with rage when frustrated, contradicted, or confronted.
Summarized from:
American Psychiatric Association. (1994). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders, fourth edition (DSM IV). Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Association.
Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited by: Sam Vaknin, Narcissus Publications, Skopje and Prague, 1999, 2001.
http://samvak.tripod.com/npdglance.html
There have been well over 12,000 individual discussions posted at the Suite 101 Narcissistic Personality Disorder Discussion site over the past 18 months. In the preparation of this document, we encountered victim's reports of attempted murders, physical assault requiring hospitalization, mental abuse requiring hospitalization and medication that span many years, severe financial loss and consequences, stalking, workplace bullying and harassment, sexual abuse, incest, vindictiveness in child custody court battles, repudiation of pension contracts, and non-payment of child-support, all as a result of involvement with persons with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. For obvious reasons these quotes cannot be used. For equally obvious reasons, what has been inflicted upon them cannot be ignored.
The Editors.
Acknowledgement
I would like to express my appreciation to the hundreds of posters who contribute at this discussion site, and to those who participated in producing this document.
Sam Vaknin, Ph.D.
Contents
The Narcissistic Predator
Oh, What a Tangled Web They Weave
Lies, Lies and More Lies
Reclaiming Sanity: Understanding, Coping, Boundaries
On the Funny Side of the Street
...(Our Blunders, Bloopers, Typos, One-Liners and Jokes)
Links and Resources
Abbreviations Used:
N = Narcissist, Narcissism
NS = Narcissistic Supply (the attention, admiration Ns want)
NPD = Narcissistic Personality Disorder
PD = Personality Disorder
The Narcissistic Predator
"The narcissist inflicts pain and abuse on others. He devalues sources of supply, callously and off-handedly abandons them, and discards people, places, partnerships, and friendships unhesitatingly. Sudden shifts between sadism and altruism, abuse and 'love', ignoring and caring, abandoning and clinging, viciousness and remorse, the harsh and the tender - are, perhaps, the most difficult to comprehend and to accept. These swings produce in people around the narcissist emotional insecurity, an eroded sense of self worth, fear, stress, and anxiety ('walking on eggshells'). Gradually, emotional paralysis ensues and they come