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Narcissist
FAQ # 48: The Narcissist's Mother
FAQ # 49: The Inverted Narcissist
FAQ # 50: Narcissists, Inverted Narcissists and Schizoids
FAQ # 51: Narcissists and Chemical Imbalances
FAQ # 52: Myths about Narcissism
FAQ # 53: The Selfish Gene
(The Genetic Underpinnings of Narcissism)
FAQ # 54: Narcissism - The Psychopathological Default
FAQ # 55: Narcissism with Other Mental Health Disorders
(Co-Morbidity and Dual Diagnosis)
FAQ # 56: Eating Disorders and the Narcissist
FAQ # 57: Can the Narcissist Have a Meaningful Life?
FAQ # 58: A Case Study
FAQ # 59: The Narcissist's Reactions to This Text
Narcissism and Society
FAQ # 60: A Dream Interpreted
FAQ # 61: How to Recognise a Narcissist?
FAQ # 62: Interacting with a Narcissist
FAQ # 63: The Weapon of Language
FAQ # 64: Exploitation by a Narcissist
FAQ # 65: The Narcissist's Victims

FAQ # 66: Narcissism by Proxy
FAQ # 67: Narcissists in Positions of Authority
FAQ # 68: For the Love of God
FAQ # 69: The Narcissist and Social Institutions
FAQ # 70: Collective Narcissism (Narcissism, Culture and Society)
FAQ # 71: The Narcissist in Court
FAQ # 72: The Narcissist in a Workplace
FAQ # 73: Responsibility and Other Matters
FAQ # 74: The Accountable Narcissist
FAQ # 75: Crime and Punishment: The Never Repenting Narcissist
FAQ # 76: Narcissists, Group Behaviour and Terrorism
FAQ # 77: Is the Narcissist Ever Sorry?
FAQ # 78: A Letter about Trust
FAQ # 79: The Guilt of Others
FAQ # 80: Narcissistic Confinement
FAQ # 81: Narcissistic Allocation
FAQ # 82: Narcissistic Immunity
FAQ # 83: Narcissists, Love and Healing
FAQ # 84: Vindictive Narcissists
FAQ # 85: Narcissists as Mass and Serial Killers
FAQ # 86: Narcissists, Narcissistic Supply and Sources of Supply
Narcissists and Family
FAQ # 87: How to Cope with a Narcissist?
FAQ # 88: Narcissists and Women
FAQ # 89: The Spouse/Mate/Partner of the Narcissist
FAQ # 90: Investing in a Narcissist
FAQ # 91: The Double Reflection
(Narcissistic Couples and Narcissistic Types)
FAQ # 92: Narcissistic Parents
FAQ # 93: Narcissists and Children
FAQ # 94: The Narcissist and His Family
FAQ # 95: Narcissists, Sex and Fidelity
FAQ # 96: The Extra-Marital Narcissist
FAQ # 97: Mourning the Narcissist
FAQ # 98: Surviving the Narcissist
FAQ # 99: The Dead Parents
The Author

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F O R E W O R D
Hello. Recognise me? No? Well, you see me all the time. You read my
books, watch me on the big screen, feast on my art, cheer at my games,
use my inventions, vote me into office, follow me into battle, take notes
at my lectures, laugh at my jokes, marvel at my successes, admire my
appearance, listen to my stories, discuss my politics, enjoy my music,
excuse my faults, envy me my blessings. No? Still doesn't ring a bell?
Well, you have seen me. Of that I am positive. In fact, if there is one
thing I am absolutely sure of, it is that. You have seen me.
Perhaps our paths crossed more privately. Perhaps I am the one who
came along and built you up when you were down, employed you
when you were out of a job, showed the way when you were lost,
offered confidence when you were doubting, made you laugh when you
were blue, sparked your interest when you were bored, listened to you
and understood, saw you for what you really are, felt your pain and
found the answers, made you want to be alive. Of course you recognise
me. I am your inspiration, your role model, your saviour, your leader,
your best friend, the one you aspire to emulate, the one whose favour
makes you glow.
But I can also be your worst nightmare. First I build you up because
that's what you need. Your skies are blue. Then, out of the blue, I start
tearing you down. You let me do it because that's what you are used to
and you are dumfounded. I was wrong to take pity on you. You really
are incompetent, disrespectful, untrustworthy, immoral, ignorant, inept,
egotistical, constrained, disgusting. You are a social embarrassment, an
unappreciative partner, an inadequate parent, a disappointment, a
sexual flop, a financial liability. I tell you this to your face. I must. It is
my right, because it is. I behave, at home and away, any way I want to,
with total disregard for conventions, mores, or the feelings of others. It
is my right, because it is.
I lie to your face, without a twitch or a twitter, and there is absolutely
nothing you can do about it. In fact, my lies are not lies at all. They are
the truth, my truth. And you believe them, because you