Making Good on Private Duty | Page 5

a hospital, and more or less time, as may be,
since she has graduated. But though this I think you all know, there are
some points of your connections with the doctor which may not be
quite so clear.
In the first place, then, remember that you are his aid, you are to help
him in every way you can, you are never to work against him, never
weaken the patient's confidence in him. If you do not understand why
he does thus and so, ask for an explanation, if you know him pretty
well, and if your questions are reasonable ones, and intelligently put, he
will be glad to answer you, and explain all you wish explained; but if
you do not know the reason of a certain order, and, moreover, if he will
not tell you, do not assume that he does not know, or that he is cross; it
may be some very uncertain, delicate experiment is being tried, and all
he wants you to do is to tell him, with a free unbiased mind, what you
see. Always, however, be loyal to him with the patient. When you are
asked a thousand questions as to, "Why doesn't the doctor do this, or
why does he do that?" you can always say that he does it, or does it not,
for the patient's best good, of that you are assured, and they must be
also.

You collect the facts and put them in an orderly way before the doctor;
upon your observations and reports he bases his theories of the disease
in many cases. You can see what perfect faith he must have in you, and
how true you must be to him in order to secure your patient's best good.
I have often heard doctors say, when speaking of a favorite nurse, as if
it was the only virtue worth mentioning: "I am perfectly certain that
when I am not present she will faithfully carry out my orders." Entire
faithfulness takes precedence, I think, and deservedly so. Your
accomplishments may be many, but if you have not this faithfulness,
this obedience to the doctor as a rudder to the ship of your professional
character, no matter how great may be the load of learning and
accomplishments and good intentions, your self-will and vanity will
bring you to the rocks where ruin is inevitable.
Do not fear losing your own individuality and independence. "He who
obeys well, governs well," is a very old, and a very true saying, and
your responsibilities will never cease. The more faithful you are to
orders, the more trust and confidence will be reposed in you. You will
have not only your patient, but the entire family looking to you for
directions, for, upon your faithfulness, and the tact with which you
administer your authority, will depend much of your success as nurses.
Be careful not to sever your relations with any patient unless your
doctor knows all about it. Never leave your charge, no matter how
urgent the reason may be, unless you tell him. You may be sick, or the
place may be unsuited to you, or you to the place, and you may know
that it is best for you to go. But speak first to the doctor, tell him
candidly why you wish to go, and take counsel of him how you should
act. If he tells you you may go, and you know that your place must be
filled, do not offer as your substitute your best friend, or anyone else. If
he wishes your counsel he will ask, and then you may tell him of
anyone you think will suit the position, but do not offer your friend, as
he may have some favorite of his own to put in your place. Of course
the patient or her friends must know about the contemplated change--
that I take for granted. Having consulted the doctor, will make
everything satisfactory to the most careful practitioner. So, as said
before, never go away from your patient, leaving in your place a nurse

whom the doctor does not know. He has, in most cases, selected you
for his patient, and he wants you, you may not be all he wishes you
were, but still such as you are, there you are, he knows what you can
and what you cannot do; and it is a great piece of impertinence for a
nurse to go away unknown to the doctor, leaving a stranger in her place.
The consequence, so far as he is concerned, will most likely be to have
her name crossed off his list as "unreliable"--so be careful.
As to your records, keep them faithfully; the doctor usually looks them
over very carefully, but sometimes you find one who passes them