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not be who they say they are. Wiry, articulate, cultured
Damien’s email or chat session written to you turns out to actually be composed
by his younger sister, the English lit whiz. The fact that he regularly dines
on doughnuts and little else is not mentioned. Oops.
That’s the obvious case. There are also those who mean well but "misperceive"
who they see in the bathroom mirror. Some folks are clearly looking for love
on-screen; others are just looking for a way to amuse themselves — perhaps at
your expense. Don’t fling yourself into the flat land of the monitor, hoping
that all will translate well into three dimensions. THERE IS ONLY ONE DIMENSION
ON THE WEB!!!!
Some do’s and don’t’s:
Move slowly. Relationships — including the online kind — build on previous
exchanges. If you are in a rush to fall in love by tomorrow, you will make
gross judgment errors today. Do not pack your overnight bag and skip to Another
State or Country after two chats with Wilhelm. He might easily be Silly Willie
the Town Rogue — with a pregnant girlfriend.
Be clear about who you are TELL THE TRUTH RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING. Don’t offer
up a better-enhanced version of yourself if you hope to ever meet this person
in the real world. The TRUTH will come out SOONER or LATER.
Be Honest about what you are seeking FROM THE VERY BEGINNING. This way you
take the Mystery out of EXACTLY what you are looking for, and the other person
knows also. This way there is a lot LESS time spent on PURSING that person,
especially if THEY JUST WANT TO BE a CHAT BUDDY or FRIEND ONLY.
Online flirting works much better if you are HONEST about your feelings.
The Worst thing in the world is a BORING chat friend or partner. FLIRTING is
GOOD for the SOUL! Just keep it under control, and don’t overdo it!!!
Especially if the other person IS NOT RESPONDING FAVORABLY to your Advances.

MATT’S INTERNET DATING RULES
Are you chatting or cheating? If you’re in a real-life relationship, it’s WRONG
if you are MARRIED or ENGAGED or have a SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP already to even be
ON the web looking for something better, or in addition to WHAT YOU HAVE
ALREADY. This will only hurt the other person, and give them a false sense of
something that will never come to pass, or if it does will be based upon a LIE
and go nowhere.
Some people are unbalanced enough to believe that all their life problems,
boredom and aches can be magically SOLVED by Meeting someone Online to fulfill
ALL their wants, needs and desires. Numerous people apparently well-adjusted
men and women leave their partners for an NEW online relationship knowing very
little about the other person, and yet worse have NOT even met them in person
ONCE. This is the FALSE SENSE OF SECURITY the Net leads people to believe that
NOTHING is Actually SOMETHING. In Reality it Actually is just false feelings
and emotions running WILD based upon this FALSE PERCEPTION that there is
something there when there ISN’T.
Are there any great stories of online relationships being successful? Sure.
Those who are confined to home due to disabilities or health, people with long-
distance relationships, and unattached men and women. And yes, there are
stories of great love found online. Just don’t bet your future on it.
Hope This Info Has Been Helpful to Make your Online Experience SAFER,
HEALTHIER, and MOTIVATED BY GOD and NOT just your Feelings and Emotions that
you had this minute, day, week, etc....
REMEMBER: The Best Relationship are Made by God, In HIS Timing and Trusting and
Praying to HIM for ALL your Guidance. You Can’t Go Wrong When You Trust and
Wait Upon God! Rom. 8:28, Prov. 3:5,6
Love in Christ Always,
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