How To Get A Man To The Alter

How to Get a Man to the Alter without having sex first By Tom McNight


How to Get a Man to the Altar –
Without Going to Bed With Him First!
By Tom McNight

OK, so maybe this article isn’t for everybody. For some
women, “putting out” just isn’t an issue for them. Maybe it
isn’t for you, either. But if you are tired of the game and
really want the promise of love within a covenant, keep
reading.

For some women now reading these words putting out is a
big issue. Secretly, they’ve wished there was some way
around it, but have ultimately surrendered to what appears to
be an unrelenting social custom of our day. There is
incredibly strong peer pressure out there assuring you that
“there is no other way”. There are a lot of women out there
who really would like to save the heavy artillery for
marriage, but they think it’s against the rules so they play a pretending game and it tears
them apart.

A whole slew of women find they don’t really want to have to lay down their personal
values and integrity time after time before they’re married. But what else can they do?
These women would like to really know…is it truly possible to catch a man and marry
him, in this day and age, without having to go to bed with him first? Can a woman really
still win the man she wants, without having to compromise her integrity by ignoring the
voice inside her when it says, “I just don’t feel right doing it t\
his way!”

The answer is a resounding, “Yes, more than you can begin to imagine!” Not only can
you capture a man’s heart without having to sell your soul for the privilege, but the
confidence that emanates from you when you determine to be true to yourself in this
regard actually empowers you in your ability to get him to commit!!

In fact, the truth is, your ability to mesmerize the man you want is magnified when you
hold out to the very end in refusing to bestow marital privileges until…well…marriage!
You hold the winning hand, if you just refuse to be bluffed out of it.

Why, then, do so many women seem to believe that they don’t have any choice in the
matter? Why do so many think that, if they ever hope to get married, that going to bed
with the man first is inescapable?

The Great Lie and Why Men Deceive

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How to Get a Man to the Alter without having sex first By Tom McNight
Now, as a man, I can be tried for treason for what I am about to say, but let the truth be
told. There is a lie – a GREAT LIE – that has been drummed up and perpetuated in our
world that if a woman doesn’t go to bed with a man she loves then she will lose her
chance to win his love in return. This is absolutely false, but men have succeeded for the
most part in convincing women that it is true.

It is a MYTH that if a woman doesn’t break down and give a man sex before marriage
that she won’t be able to get him to fall in love with her, or to marry her. This is a
BLATANT FALSEHOOD.

This GREAT LIE is the result of a silent conspiracy intended to suppress women’s
independence and keep them subject to men’s desires for immediate physical
gratification. It does not have as its object the intention to secure for a woman a
permanent and lasting relationship. Still, she is allowed to think that this improves her
chances of winning a man’s heart in order to keep her playing the game and servicing the
man’s physical needs as long as possible.

Let’s face facts. Men and women are different in some fundamental ways regarding their
primary drives and motivations. Women yearn more for emotional nurturance while men
carry the burden of an obsessively strong, persistent drive for sex. So\
meone has
insightfully pointed out that “a woman wants one man to satisfy her every need, while a
man wants every woman to satisfy his one need.”

The natural man is a philanderer. His animal nature is to behave like a beast and have
sex as often and with as many different women as he can. Until he conquers this savage
beast within, he remains a prisoner to animal instincts – an addict to sex