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is good; to harrow up the feelings when you cannot
or will not act, is simply weakness.
"Feeling" is subject to the same law as water. Take away its banks and
it spreads all over creation and becomes a stagnant slough of despond.
Confine it by banks of common-sense and will and it grows deep and
tender and powerful, and bears blessings on its bosom.
The professional pity-er is adding to the sum total of the world's
misery.
The world is like "sweet Alice Ben Bolt"; it laughs with delight when

you give it a smile, and gets out its pocket handkerchief to weep with
you when you call it "Poor thing!"
Then it cuts its call short and runs around the corner to tell your
neighbor what a tiresome old thing you are anyway.
Never you mind the tribulations you can't help, dearie. Just wake up
and be the brightest, happiest, sweetest thing you know how to be, and
the world will-be that much better off.
CHAPTER III.
TO BE LOVED.
"I desire to attract love from the Infinite or somewhere, that I may not
be starved for it, as I have been ever since I married. My husband
sneers at the New Thought, and in fact at nearly all that is best in me."
Caroline.
And yet this woman has children to love her. She thinks she is in need
of being loved; but what she really needs is to love. Being loved is the
effect of loving. A loving man or woman can never want for love.
Others turn to them in love as naturally as flowers turn to the sun.
In order to be loved you must radiate love. Instead of trying to attract
the love of others, seek to give your love to others, expecting nothing in
return. After a time you will find the unexpected coming to you
spontaneously.
Learn to love by loving all people and things, and especially all things
you find to do.
This same Caroline wants to "rise above drudgery." What is drudgery?
It is simply unloved work--nothing more nor less. Any work which is
looked down upon, and which is done with the hands whilst the heart
and mind are criticizing it, and running out after other things,--any
work thus done is drudgery. Work done with the hands and a small and

unwilling part of the mind, is drudgery. To her who respects, and loves,
and does with a will what she finds to do, there is no drudgery.
Let the woman who longs to be loved begin to love, by practicing on
her work. To quit calling it "drudgery"; to put all her mind and will and
soul into each piece of work as it comes; is the first and longest step
toward loving it. It is an easily demonstrated fact that we learn to love
anything we persist in doing with a whole-souled will.
To love our work enlarges our capacity for loving people, and the more
we love people, and the more people we love, the more radiant we
become.
It is the radiant lover whom all the world loves. Do you know that love
and the lack of love are governed by "auto-suggestion"? It is natural to
love, as every child does. But as we grow up we keep saying to
ourselves (this is auto-suggestion, you know) that we "don't like this,"
and we "don't like that," until really we shut up our love and live in a
continual state of "don't like"--a state which in due time develops into
hate--hate for self as well as others. "Don't like" does it all.
Now cultivate love by auto-suggestion. Keep saying, "I like this," and
"I like that." Hunt for things to like, and even tell yourself you like
things when you don't feel that you like them at all.
Feeling is a result of suggestion. Nothing easier to prove than that. A
hypnotist can, by suggestion, make you feel almost anything, whether it
is true or not. He will say, "You feel sad," and straightway you will feel
so. Then he will say, "You feel happy," and you do. Your feelings are
like a harp, and your statements, or auto-suggestions, are the fingers
which pick the strings. Take good care to play the tunes you want--to
say you like things, or love them. Then you will quickly respond and
feel that you like or love them. Keep practicing until you love all the
time. Then you will be loved to your heart's content.
CHAPTER IV.
THE PHARISEE UP-TO-DATE.

As long as you continue to hug the delusion that you are "not to blame"
for the unpleasant things in your conditions you might just as well
profess the old thought as the new. The very fundamental principle of
mental science