Flirting In The 21st Century | Page 2

bar, sit somewhere everyone has to
pass to get their coffee or even go to the loo. If
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you can really have fun with this one and getaway with it.
3. The 3-step flirt. If you see someone you like
across a crowded room, check out the body
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donÕt want red wine all over that white shirt or
slinky dress, do you! Make eye contact while
smiling and incline or raise your glass towards
them. Look away. Repeat two or three times.
Note their reaction. If they smile back, raisetheir glass back, the flirtation has begun. Eat your food sensually, use your tongue
occasionally to lick your lips. Make eye contact
as you open your mouth to spoon in something
delicious. Think about sharing it with them.
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Find an excuse to go somewhere where they
can initiate a conversation with you comfortably
and look at them and tilt your head in the
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interested they may feel inspired to follow you
and make a move. If not, have the waiter pass
them a note with your mobile or pager number
or you could do it yourself. Wait briefly, until
look at it, then just smile at them and leave.
TRAVELLING
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ROUTES FOR A FLIRTY JOURNEY
Benefits
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greatest way to meet new people and explore
without being tied down. A traveller is
expected to approach people so that makes it
easier. When you are in a foreign country or
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you. You donÕt worry about people judging you
because they donÕt know you and you might notmeet again.
Talking to other travellers is a great way of
passing time on a long journey and who knows
you might make a good friend or find out some
useful information or even more.
Tips
1. Travelling involves reading maps, finding your
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you fancy to help you.
2. Carry a Pink Lady
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these wonderful apples that are supposed to be
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prop, Pink Lady
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snack and you can offer the second one to
your flirtee!
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a travellerÕs guide to flirting and ask them if
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write the guide or at least to amuse your
friends and who knows, getting them into a
flirty mood might open the door to more!
SOCIAL EVENTS
FLIRTING FOR THE FUN OF IT
Benefits
Being able to flirt with many people at a social
event is great for building positive connections
that other people want to continue. Even when
you donÕt have much time with one person, you
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remember you. You can flirt with a lot ofpeople briefly and still manage to set the scenefor further contact or an invitation.
Tips
1. If you want to break into a group, hover on
the edge and listen carefully to what they say.
If it seems alien to you move on
to another group. Think ofthem as friendly people who
are just as keen as you to
make new contacts. Look at
the person talking if you can
and make brief eye contact
with the rest of the group.
Smile as you do this. If a
point in the discussion arrives
where you have something toadd that might be useful, then
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and start in. You could begin
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interestingÉ and
agree/disagree or make your
comment. The eye contact and
smiles will make the group
open to listening to you and
letting you in.
2. Move around the event/party
checking out and scanning all
the rooms making lots of eye
contact and extending it if you
see someone you like. Try toget a sense of who is coupled
and who is alone while you do
this. You donÕt want to make
eyes at someone and find theirhusband/wife breathing down your neck, do
you? When you find the position where most
people pass by, station yourself there. Say hello
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signal that you are open to meeting. Have your
personal and business cards to hand and easily
reachable. Always be prepared to hand them
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them again and make it clear why.
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away, by making a gesture like a cough and
briefly looking away towards a group of people
and back again saying, ÔWould you excuse me? I
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gracefully.
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and adapt some of the rules above to fit into
your own flirting agenda?