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and good for them if you actually rise to their
level.
Inner Work and Mental Preparation
We’ve explored how powerful our subconscious is and how
important it is to ensure it’s a positive factor. Don’t criticize yourself
when you talk to yourself, don’t tell yourself you’re bad, ask why you
were so stupid, or why you’re screwing up. When something doesn’t
go exactly as you wanted, just visualize the improved way you’d like it
to go next time and shrug it off as okay for now.
Make it a habit to be nice to your unconscious through positive
self- talk, affirmation, and visualizations. The following exercises will
use your conscious thought to create positivity into your subconscious.
Exercise #1: Controlling Your Emotions and Inner States
Now to address the idea of 'states'. By 'state' I mean the feeling
that you have in your body. Many guys that I know make themselves
feel horrible when they think of the idea of meeting women. This way
just doesn't help.
Can you remember a time when you felt happy and excited? Can
you remember a time when you felt powerful and energetic? If you
can, then you can HAVE THESE FEELINGS ANY TIME YOU WANT THEM.
Most people don't use their memories to help them feel good because
they say "Well, that's not really how I'm feeling, I'm just imagining it."
Well, I have news for you: You're ALWAYS just imagining it. You might
as well imagine it at times when you need it instead of having it
happen on accident!
Here's how to apply this idea:
Write down three states that you'd like to be able to put yourself
into anytime you'd like. Then, write down three times in your life when
you felt each of those states. Finally, close your eyes and put yourself
into each of the three situations that made you feel the state that you
want. Also, do SOMETHING UNIQUE with your body as you're
remembering. For instance, if you'd like to feel powerful and confident,
while you're remembering times when you felt this way, breathe out
quickly while puckering your lips.

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If you do this process of remembering the states and exhaling
quickly at the same time, all you have to do in the future is close your
eyes, breathe out quickly while remembering the feelings, and you'll
have the states that you want. It's like having a ‘push’ button for
feeling good about yourself.
Next, you have to practice putting yourself into your three powerful
states when you're in different environments. So go to different places
and practice getting yourself into your states with distractions, etc.
This might take some doing, but once you have it mastered, you'll be
able to get yourself into a positive state when you're not feeling it to
begin with (Could this exercise be useful when you're feeling shy or
afraid to meet someone? Maybe!)
Exercise #2: Ideal Self-Image
Start this exercise by closing your eyes and making a picture of the
you that you would like to become. Imagine how you would be
standing, how you’d be breathing, what you’d be wearing, the
expression on your face, etc.
Now go a little further and imagine what would be inside that ideal
self: the beliefs you’d have, how you would deal with different
situations, why your posture is held that way—because you were
confident, relaxed, etc.
Finally, imagine what is behind that ideal self; what are some of
the things that ideal self would have been through to have that image,
what are the experiences that formed its beliefs, etc.
Get the whole image together and make it as vivid as you possibly
can. You can always go back, add, or change this image as you think
of things you forgot to add or want to modify. Now take that image
and throw it up in the air so far that it’s just a tiny dot you can’t even
see anymore.
Now watch it multiply into a million of them which start falling
down all around you in every direction— into your past, your future,
ahead and behind, above and below, everywhere. See it inside all the
experiences you’re going to have and everywhere you can look, all the
way to the horizon.
Get all you need, then come back and open your eyes. I’ve done
this exercise for years. It can be used any time you want, at a
crowded bar, a concert, a business meeting, etc. Just do it and see it

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everywhere. The more you do it, the more you will become this
person.
Exercise #3: Timeline
The timeline exercise is a little more involved so you’ll want to get
comfortable before you close your eyes. Imagine there’s a line that
represents your life. The past might be behind and the future ahead,
or the past could be to your left and the future on the right, wherever
they naturally happen to lie for you.
Next imagine that you’re starting to float and slowly rise up and
above the