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places at the same time on a regular basis and then
make friends with the regulars. Another trick is to list out organizations or groups you are part
of in which there are women participants and then go to at least two evening meeting per week.
If you want to stay home then you must play with personals ads the Internet.
Remember, learning any new skill takes time. But once you understand how and where to
meet women, it will take less and less. After that it is all maintenance. We’ve had students who
worked two full time jobs at once and still have time to date women.
MYTH7 WOMEN KNOW WHAT THEY WANT, AND THEY WILL TELL YOU.
Have you ever noticed that women will talk about the kind of man that they want, and end up
with someone completely different? It happens all of the time. What women say they want and
what they actually respond to are often totally different. Women can’t tell you what they want in
a man, they can only tell you what they think they want in a man. There is a big difference.
The bottom line is that women love men who are generative and creative. If they have to tell
you how to get them, what to be like, and how to behave every step of the way, they aren’t
going to be turned on by you. They also aren’t attracted to supplicants, begging for the easy
keys to melt their heart. It’s your independent nature that gets them going, not your dependency
on being told how to act.
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Besides, some of men’s traits that women complain about most have in them the seeds of
what women f ind most attractive about men. In the f ilm The Full Monty, for example, a bunch
of out-of-work male steelworkers decide that they will make money by putting on a strip show
for all the local women. Th plan has trouble written all over it—none of these guys are particu-
larly great-looking. But it speaks to a trait that women f ind both aggravating and attractive:
Men are troublemakers. We take on silly projects, push them to their limits, and even sometimes
make them work. This quality is part of the creativity that women desire so much in men. So if
you count on women to tell you what they want and how to behave in order to get them, you
short-circuit this wild nature that women love so much. Don’t fall into that trap.
MYTH#8 DATING IS SUPPOSED TO BE FAIR
This one myth gets men in more trouble than almost any of the others. If you are a man who
whines about how dating isn’t fair, you must stop that right now. We hear it all the time: “Why
can’t a woman ask me out, for once?” “If women really believed in equality, they’d kiss me
f irst!” “I’m tired of doing all the pursuit with women. It’s their turn now.” Blah, blah. blah. If it
makes you feel better, you are right: It is unfair that you have to do all the pursuing, and that
you have to take all the emotional risks by making all the “f irst moves.”
We’ve even known men who’ve confronted women about their not pursuing men. One man
made it a habit of confronting women who didn’t do “their fair share” of the pursuing. He’d tell
them in no uncertain terms that, if they wanted to date him, they’d have to do at least half of the
initiating, the pursuit, and the emotional risk-taking. “It’s the age of equality,” he would explain
to them. “You get equal rights, so now take equal responsibilities!” As you can probably guess,
he didn’t have many second dates.
The solution? Get over it. If you don’t have the sex life you want, it’s your responsibility to
get it. It is not women’s responsibility to take care of you and to make sure you have what you
want in relationships. Expecting them to do so is just immature.
Use these myths to propel your own seductive desires into full gear. These techniques have
been time tested and have produced wonderful results from men worldwide. So stay aware of
the myths and you’ll be able to create the abundant sex life you’re always wanted.
You can find out more about dating myths in Louis and Copeland’s best-selling book
“How to Succeed with Women” (Prentice Hall Press, 1998). Find out more at
http://www.howtosucceedwithwomen.com/book/body.shtml
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THE FIVE LEVELS OF
SEDUCERS
Excerpted from the tape series “The Mastery Program: Your Step-by-Step Course in
Meeting, Flirting with, Dating and Seducing the Women of Your Dreams.”
W
e’ve discovered that there are f ive levels of seducers. It’s important to know which level
you are operating from, so you can assess yourself and move forward. Many men think
they are operating at a higher level than they are. Once you can be honest about where you
operate from, you can begin to make changes.
LEVEL1: THE“HOPER.”
This man does nothing, and lives in hope that someday he’ll