Book of Etiquette | Page 2

ON THE STREET
The True Etiquette Poise in Public The Charm of Courtesy Ladies and Gentlemen When to Bow in Public Walking in Public Stopping for a Chat When Accidents Happen Accepting Courtesies from Strangers Raising the Hat How to Raise the Hat In the Street Car Entering the Car In the Taxicab Some Social Errors
V. AT THE THEATER AND THE OPERA
Dress at the Theater and Opera Entering the Theater Arriving Late About Wraps Order of Precedence Before the Play When the Curtain is Drawn During the Performance The Offending Hat Applause During Intermission Leaving the Theater
VI. HOTEL ETIQUETTE
At the Hotel The Woman Guest Receiving Masculine Guests Making Friends at the Hotel How to Register In the Public Dining-Room Hotel Stationery Regarding the Servants Leaving the Hotel
VII. TRAVEL ETIQUETTE
The Restless Urge of Travel The Customs of Countries The Traveler's Wardrobe In the Train In the Sleeping Car Train Courtesy The Woman Traveler The Woman who Travels with an Escort In the Dining-Car Children on the Train In the Taxicab Bon Voyage Gifts On Board the Ship Courtesy of the Ship The Woman Crossing the Ocean A Concert at Sea At the Journey's End At Hotel and Restaurant At Tea-Room and Roof-Garden To Those Who Love to Travel
VIII. TIPPING
An Un-American Custom Lavish Tipping In Dining-Room or Dining-Car At the Hotel The Taxi-Driver On the Train Crossing the Ocean Tips in Foreign Countries
IX. ETIQUETTE ABROAD
The American in Foreign Countries On English Soil Addressing Royalty Other English Titles -And Still Other Titles Addressing Clergy Abroad Lawyers, Statesmen and Officials-How to Address Them At the Court of England What to Wear to Court The King's Levees In France Addressing Titled People in France Certain French Conventions Dinner Etiquette French Wedding Etiquette Balls About Calls and Cards Correspondence The American in Germany The Perfect American Tourist
APPENDIX Foreign Words in Frequent Social Usage
LIST OF ILLUSTRATIONS
READY FOR TEA Frontspiece Page TABLE SET FOR DINER THE PUNCH TABLE THE BUFFET LUNCH







PART III
Repose and cheerfulness are the badge of the gentleman--repose in energy. The Greek battle pieces are calm; the heroes, in whatever violent actions engaged, retain a serene aspect; as we say of Niagara, that it falls without speed. A cheerful, intelligent face is the end of culture, and success enough. For it indicates the purpose of nature and wisdom attained. --Emerson







CHAPTER I
SERVANTS
THE SERVANT IN THE HOUSEHOLD
"A mouse can look at a king, but a king won't often look at a mouse" says the old proverb. Which is, sadly enough, the state of affairs between servants and mistresses in many households.
A great many people feel somehow that those who labor in the capacity of servants are inferior. But in most cases, it is those who place servants on a lower plane who are themselves inferior. We owe those who take a part in the household affairs of our homes, more than the wages we pay them. We owe them gratitude, courtesy, kindness. Many elaborate dinners would be failures if it were not for the silent members of our households. Many formal entertainments would be impossible without their help. They hold a certain place of importance in the home and it should be recognized in the social world as a place worthy of every courtesy and respect.
For those who are fortunate enough to have servants to help with domestic tasks, it is extremely important that the correct etiquette of servants be thoroughly known and understood. And those who serve as butlers and maids and valets must also know the little rules of good conduct that govern their duties and responsibilities. The information contained in the following paragraphs is meant for both the servant and the mistress, and we hope that both will find it valuable.
A WORD TO THE MISTRESS
In the home where guests are frequently entertained and where the hostess holds many formal social functions, servants are essential.
Every family that can afford to do so, should have one, or two, or more servants according to social requirements and the appointments of the house. They should be well instructed in their duties and they should be expected to carry them out faultlessly. Untidy, noisy, ill-trained servants reflect upon the manners and conduct of the mistress herself.
The most common method of engaging a servant is through an agency. Here different types of men and women can be found, and the mistress of the household may be fortunate enough to find one suited to her requirements. Sometimes she secures a maid or butler by the recommendation of some other housekeeper. This method is usually more satisfactory than any other because it puts things on a rather friendly basis from the start.
But whether the maid or butler be engaged by recommendation or through an agency, it is important that it be clearly understood from the beginning just what his or her duties will be.